7 reasons why your dreams don't come true

The first and most banal reason  is that the goals are simply not set. There are still a huge number of people who simply do not know that you can set goals and plan your life. The roots of this problem are parenting. If it wasn’t customary in the family to plan and set goals, then the child gets used to living “as it is,” according to the pattern.

The second reason  is that the goals were set incorrectly: vaguely, vaguely, do not have clear deadlines for achievement, the context, resources are not taken into account, there is no plan, etc. This includes all the mistakes that people make when setting goals.

The third reason  is that people do not believe that this or that goal is attainable. She seems so unreal, distant and impossible. People are usually simply afraid to set such goals, convincing themselves, “Why set an unrealistic goal that will not come true anyway.” Thus, undermining faith in oneself and one's abilities.

The fourth reason  is that people believe that the goal is achievable, but do not believe that they can achieve it. Excuses and excuses are used: “I don’t have those qualities that will allow me to achieve this goal”, “I don’t know how ...”, “I can’t ...”, “In my case this is impossible ...”, etc.

The fifth reason  is that people do not believe that they are worthy of this goal! A person can believe that he is able to achieve this goal, but is convinced that he does not deserve what he dreams about. This is accompanied by such thoughts: “Nobody needs me,” “I am not worthy of it, because ...”, “Something is wrong with me, I deserved suffering and pain”, etc.

The sixth reason  is that people simply don’t do what is necessary to achieve the goal. Often accused of this "laziness." Laziness is not a cause, it is a consequence. Behind her lie more serious and deeper reasons for not doing. The false belief that “goals themselves come true” is generated by films like “Secret”. In the film, considerable attention is paid to the “visualization” technique, but almost nothing is said about the need to do a lot to make this visualization a reality.

The seventh, but by no means the last reason is fears. People are afraid of defeat, success, evaluation, and a huge number of different events and conditions. Fear paralyzes, leads through self-sabotage on the wrong path, distracts. But at the same time, fear is a colossal accumulation of internal resources that go out as soon as you overcome it.